Take power back over your mind and break the painful shackles that keep you stuck.

Early January, I went into partnership with the local Chamber of Commerce to offer a six-session online program called “Manage Your Mind to Enhance Productivity and Creativity during Challenging Times”.

I was delighted to gain the Chamber’s support and respect on this collaboration and felt genuinely thrilled about the potential to work with such a diverse group of people. During the next few days, between my website manager, and the Chamber, we prepared the graphics and content. We launched the event, clearly detailing all the transformational benefits on offer to peoples’ lives.

The five weeks from inception to the start of the program flew by, and each day I grew more excited by the possibility for members to gain more clarity and suffer less with uncertainty all around.  A day before the training; I learned that no-one had signed up, and the event was cancelled.

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Before I came across this understanding of the human mind, I would have been devasted and embarrassed by this lack of interest, even annoyed, given the amount of work by the Chamber staff and the discounted fees. Days, even weeks would have passed, with me harbouring destructive thinking. My children would ask what’s wrong with you, Mum, and I would tell them, oh, nothing just something at work, but they would miss my enthusiastic spirit around the house.

Nowadays, my response is so different. I can honestly say that I read the e-mail, and thought, that’s such a shame. That was it, except for a moment of sadness for everyone’s effort to create the program. I didn’t give it a second thought, and not because I didn’t care, quite the opposite. Insight into the mind’s power to create experience allows me to live more freely and not create drama inside my head, which steals valuable time.

The imagination can give us a run around, lots of stories like people don’t see the value or respect my work, all completely arbitrary. Fortunately, I remained neutral, connected to my innate resilience. Before long, I created another on-line program coaching thirty-three young people to understand that their well-being is built into the human psychological system. Before my realisations, that wouldn’t have been possible, and thirty-three young souls would have gone untouched, as I picked myself up.

You may have experienced similar setbacks in your business or personal life, and had similar responses, despondency, frustration, maybe even anger.

It’s quite normal; most people don’t get to see how experience truly works for all of us, i.e. resilience is one thought away. With insight as to how life works, you take power back over your mind. When I discovered there were no takers for the program, I didn’t lose any living minutes in states of mind that were unproductive and painful. I have realised that someone or something cannot put a feeling in me; it doesn’t work that way. It takes a bit of seeing like getting a joke; you cannot unsee it, the insight is yours forever. Old habits of insecure thinking may creep back in, but like bad guests at a party, you politely offer them the back door. The next time you hit tough times, I invite you to get curious about how you eventually got over things in the past; nothing changed outside, but everything’s different on the inside. What’s that about – well worth a look!

What People Say About Working With Denise

Vicky Norman

Meeting Denise was perfect timing, written in the stars, foretold, whatever. My world was falling apart, my marriage had ended, my child was in serious trouble, and I was upping sticks and moving up North to run the biggest, most complex project of my career.
Four months later, my project is an astonishing success, my marriage is back on track, and best of all, my baby is coming back to me. I am different at work, at home, inside my head, and others can see it. The dark days aren’t dark any more because they don’t last, and the light days are far more frequent. Denise’s workj isn’t just amazing in the world of sport but any area of life.

Vicky Norman
Implementation Manager

Richard Pybus

Denise has been instrumental in my evolving understanding of the Three Principles and how they specifically apply in high-performance sport. Her insightful and intuitive way of working has challenged and deepened my fundamental understanding of all human performance. I’ll always be appreciative of her significant role in my development as a performance director and coach.

Richard Pybus
Founder & CEO Optimal Performance - Former Director of Cricket - West Indies Cricket Board

Hannah Salem

I used to struggle to remain calm and confident in stressful situations, what others think of me, what would happen if I did something wrong? We are all capable of achieving, no part of our abilities is lacking! This programme has truly changed me for the best and is perfect during my final year of University.

Hannah Salem
Third Year Student - The University of Kent - Sports Therapy

Amelia Davies

Denise’s new approach is great for teamwork, we don’t get upset with each other anywhere near as much, and get over disappointments quickly.

Amelia Davies
Third Year Student - The University of Kent, Sports and Excercise for Health

Grayson Hart

I enjoyed speaking with Denise about the mind and performance. The conversations were very insightful and always had me challenging and questioning the status quo regarding mental performance. The critical pointer Denise gave was that our natural state is freedom of mind, clarity and potential. We don’t need to overexert the mind to find these states. Searching for them often leads us further into tension. I found this very relatable to direct experiences in life and sport.

Grayson Hart
Scotland International Rugby Player - London Scottish FC

Stuart Lancaster

I appreciate the support Denise gave me when I was transitioning into my new role at Leinster and helping me understand how to ‘free my mind!

Stuart Lancaster
Senior Coach Leinster Rugby – Former England Rugby Coach

Charlie Harris

Before I took part in Denise’s Health and Well Being programme, I stressed in many situations; it would prevent me from taking part in different things. I now look at the situations holistically and not let thoughts prevent me from putting myself forward.

Charlie Harris
2nd-year student – The University of Greenwich – Forensic science with Criminology Student

Mark Harris

I reached out to Denise when my world seemed to be falling apart. I had recently received a diagnosis of two different types of cancer; my son was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer and had little time to live. I did not know how to process all of this, and my mental state spiralled! Within ten minutes of quiet time with Denise, I felt everything lifting from my shoulders and a feeling of calm settling in its place. Working with Denise has given me a deeper understanding and knowledge of the mind, it keeps me on a healthy path not only in general day-to-day life but as a life skill in my work environment and sport. Forever grateful to you, Denise.

 

Mark Harris

Floyd Woodrow MBE

Denise is impressive in her abilities by any standard. Her ability to teach and develop those around her, mark her out as someone with exceptional leadership and coaching skills. I constantly seek advice and counsel from her and trust her implicitly.

Floyd Woodrow MBE
Chairman and CEO of Chrysalis Worldwide

Jack Pransky

Denise Holland is one of my best “students.” She is one of the few students I have asked to teach with me, and I was and remain very impressed with her presence, her knowledge, her wisdom, her feeling and her responsiveness. I would say anyone who works with Denise is in excellent hands.

 

Jack Pransky

Nadia McMillian

I am so grateful to have worked with Denise, I used to float in and out of different moods and believed it was other things and situations causing them. Honestly, this understanding has changed my life.

Nadia McMillian
Third Year Student - The University of Kent, Sport and Exercise Science.

Lesley MacDonald

Denise has a tremendous understanding of how to achieve elite performance in sport. Her contagious enthusiasm is motivating and inspires you to the next level

Lesley MacDonald
Scotland National Netball Athlete (107 caps)

Adam Ashe

Denise has the skills and experience to wake people up to deeper knowledge about themselves. In the sporting arena, this knowledge happens to be crucially important.

Adam Ashe
Professional Rugby Player – Glasgow Warriors

Matthew Roberts

I was fortunate enough to have a conversation with Denise when we met in America. It would be easy to accuse me of exaggeration or sensationalising by making the following statement, but I can only offer you the truth as I see it.

Matthew Roberts
England International High Jumper who came back from breaking his neck!

Harriet Bonner-Leney

I enjoyed this course very much as it improved my shooting technique and accuracy dramatically. I learned that you do not have to be controlled by your negative thoughts because they are not you.

Harriet Bonner-Leney
Age 12